Heard of Pending #coffee ?

Heard of Pending #coffee ?

A Collection of Strangeness

A Collection of Strangeness

• When Leo Tolstoy and his brother were children, they created a club with a peculiar, almost impossible initiation ceremony. In order to become a member, one had to stand in a corner for a half an hour and not think of anything white.
• Most elephants weigh less than the tongue of the blue whale
• Mrs. Caroline Squires of Cincinnati filed for a divorce from her husband in 1949 on grounds of desertion. She testified he'd stepped out "for a beer" on the Fourth of July, 1917, and had never come back.
• The French national anthem, "La Marseillaise," derived its title from the enthusiasm of the men of Marseilles, France, who sang it when they marched into Paris at the outset of the French Revolution. Rouget de l'Isle, its composer, was an artillery officer. According to his account, he fell asleep at a harpsichord and dreamt the words and the music. Upon waking, he remembered the entire piece from his dream and immediately wrote it down.
• Most elephants weigh less than the tongue of the blue whale
• A law passed in Nebraska in 1912 really set down some hard rules of the road. Drivers in the country at night were required to stop every 150 yards, send up a skyrocket, then wait eight minutes for the road to clear before proceeding cautiously, all the while blowing their horn and shooting off flares..
• Birds do not sleep in their nests. They may occasionally nap in them, but they actually sleep in other places.
• The formula for cold cream has hardly changed at all in the 1,700 years since it was originally made by the Roman physician Galen.
• George Lumley, aged 104, married Mary Dunning, aged 10, in Nortallerton, England on August 25, 1783. She was the great-great granddaughter of the woman who'd broken her engagement to Lumley, eighty years before.
• Caesar salad has nothing to do with any of the Caesars. It was first concocted in a bar in Tiajuana, Mexico on July 4, 1924 by Caesar Cardini (born Cesare) (1896-1956), an Italian hotel owner, restaurateur and chef.
• Objects weigh slightly less at the equator than at the poles.
  If the Earth was a non-rotating sphere, it would show equal gravitational values (values of g) at any point on its surface. However, the Earth is not spherical but elliptical, with a greater radius at the equator than at the poles. As a result, one might expect gravitational readings to be lower at the equator than at the poles. And, because the Earth is rotating, there is a tendency for objects to be thrown away from the Earth. This tendency is greatest at the equator and zero at the poles, reducing the gravitational attraction.
• Crocodiles and alligators are surprisingly fast on land. Although they are rapid, they are not agile; so if you ever find yourself chased by one, run in a zigzag line. You'll lose him or her every time.
• After Albert Einstein had been at Princeton for some months, local news hounds discovered that a twelve-year-old girl happened to stop by the Einstein home almost every afternoon. The girl's mother hadn't thought to ask Einstein about the situation until the newspapers reported it, but when she got the opportunity after that she did so. What could her daughter and Einstein have in common that they spent so much time together? Einstein replied simply, "She brings me cookies and I do her arithmetic homework."
• When the French Academy was preparing its first dictionary, it defined "crab" as, "A small red fish which walks backwards." This definition was sent with a number of others to the naturalist Cuvier for his approval. The scientist wrote back, "Your definition, gentlemen, would be perfect, only for three exceptions. The crab is not a fish, it is not red and it does not walk backwards."

JIB: Job Interview Breakdown

Have you ever been a victim 
of a JIB (job interview breakdown)? These men and women have:

• “I was so nervous at a job interview, when he asked me what I wanted to be in five years, I said, ‘Race car driver.’”

• “The guy asked me to tell him 
a little about myself, and I literally forgot who I was.”

• “I got asked about punctuality. 
I went on about how it was good 
to speak clearly and politely, and 
it was nice to use proper grammar 
in speech and writing.”

Source: dailymail.co.uk

30 Characteristics of a Good Guy

1. He has integrity and character:  simply put, a good guy is less talk and more action.  The Latin origin of “integrity” means whole, and when it comes to being a good guy, wholesome is sexy.  Everywhere he goes, he leaves a mark.
2. He’s balanced:  family and friends always comes first.  He prioritizes his time and is well-rounded in many areas.  He’s a modern Renaissance man.
3. He’s confident:  this doesn’t mean cocky at all.  He has a good self-image about himself and believes he deserves the best.
4. He’s courageous:  he goes after what he wants even in the presence of self-doubt.  He’s not afraid to approach women and spark conversation.
5. He listens:  the good guy doesn’t care about the sound of his voice.  He doesn’t interrupt and he follows the rule that 75% of the time should be listening vs. talking.
6. He takes initiative:  the good guy is a leader, and takes the first step in a group setting and in a relationship.
7. He’s detail-oriented:  as tough as it is for a man, the good guy tries to stay on top of it and is organized.  When it comes to pursuing the girl of his dreams, he knows the little things count the most.
8. He has self-respect and gives respect to all:  he focuses on the kind of man he wants to be, and creates a positive internal self-dialogue.  A good guy is empathetic and forgiving.
9. He challenges himself to be a better man:  most men are raised to believe they need to fight and conquer.  A good guy understands to overcome one’s own self is better than competing and beating anyone else.
10. He’s committed and faithful:  he says what he means, and means what he says. He follows through with his word even with people who don’t follow through with theirs.  He’s loyal in relationship.
11. He fights against injustice:  when a good guy sees another guy act out of line with a female, he thinks it could be his own sister, mother or daughter, and steps in to fight the injustice, even if it’s his own friend that’s causing the problem.
12. He’s honest:  the truth can hurt, but it’s also the beginning of the healing process.  A good guy understands honesty might be tough up front, but the impact is far less than the outcome of long running white lies.
13. He’s good with his money:  he makes decisions to plan for the future, and makes a budget for himself.
14. He has good humor:  he doesn’t take himself too seriously, and is happy to be the pun of everyone’s joke.
15. He’s humble:  he lets others sing his praises instead of himself.
16. He’s a team player:  he understands the team’s success is his success, and cares more about the team winning than his own ego.
17. He’s adaptable:  things don’t always go his way, but he picks himself up and tries again.  Throw him in any scene, and he’s comfortable.
18. He has good manners:  his actions are made with care and consideration.
19. He’s always learning:  the good guy loves life, and seeks to make the most out of it.  He reads at least one book a month.
20. He’s shaped by men he respects:  he finds mentors, men he wants to be like, and regularly meets with them.
21. He has true and close friendships:  he keeps a tight brotherhood around him and understands “iron sharpens iron as man sharpens man.”
22. He has a desire to advance culture:  when he leaves the world, it will be a better place.
23. He has temperance (moderate in action, thought, feeling and yup alcohol):  he’s not the wild and out of control guy at the party.  The good guy is the one who carries him home on his shoulders.  He thinks before he acts, and doesn’t let him emotions get the best of him.
24. He supports and promotes moral excellence:  he knows what’s right and wrong.  The good guy is the one who helps an elderly lady carry her groceries to her car.
25. He seeks peace when possible:  he confronts in private, but he’s never a doormat.  The confidence in himself is unwavering in tough times.
26. He improves his physical health:  he knows his body is a temple, and works to improve his health and his image.
27. He has a vision to lead:  with long-term thinking, the good guy leads with the realization his actions today will affect his life and others in the future.
28. He has gratitude:  he works hard, and is thankful for everything he receives.
29. He knows the importance of family:  not only is he concerned with the legacy he will leave, but he honors the legacy he has received and the traditions of his ancestors.
30. He believes in his Creator:  he starts his day in prayer, and stops and listens for his next steps.

Oscar Wilde's Awesome 25 Quotes

Oscar Wilde's Awesome 25 Quotes

1. I think that God, in creating man, somewhat overestimated his ability.

2. The world is a stage, but the play is badly cast.

3. Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.

4. It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious.

5. The only thing to do with good advice is pass it on. It is never any use to oneself.

6. Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.

7. What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.

8. A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal.

9. When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is.

10. There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.

11. Work is the curse of the drinking classes.

12. Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.

13. True friends stab you in the front.

14. All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his.

15. Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.

16. There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.

17. Genius is born—not paid.

18. Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike.

19. How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being?

20. A gentleman is one who never hurts anyone’s feelings unintentionally.

21. My own business always bores me to death; I prefer other people’s.

22. The old believe everything, the middle-aged suspect everything, the young know everything.

23. I like men who have a future and women who have a past.

24. There are two ways of disliking poetry; one way is to dislike it, the other is to read Pope.

25. Quotation is a serviceable substitute for wit.

Life's Instructions for happy and successful life

1. Have a firm handshake.
2. Look people in the eye.
3. Sing in the shower.
4. Own a great stereo system.
5. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
6. Keep secrets.
7. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen everyday.
8. Always accept an outstretched hand.
9. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
10. Whistle.
11. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
12. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 per cent of all your happiness or misery.
13. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out.
14. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
15. Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
16. When playing games with ! children, let them win.
17. Give people a second chance, but not a third.
18. Be romantic.
19. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
20. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems.
21. Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for our convenience, not the caller's.
22. Be a good loser.
23. Be a good winner.
24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret.
25. When someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.
26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born.
27. Keep it simple.
28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose.
29. Don't burn bridges. You'll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river.
30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, No Regrets
31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the
32. things you didn't do more than the one's you did.
33. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
34. Remember no one makes it alone. Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you.
35. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you.
36. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes.
37. Begin each day with some of your favorite music.
38. Once in a while, take the scenic route.
39. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sign them, 'Someone who thinks you're terrific.'
40. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice.
41. Keep a note pad and pencil on your bed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m.
42. Show respect for everyone who works for a living, regardless of how trivial their job.
43. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later.
44. Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you.
45. Become someone's hero.
46. Marry only for love.
47. Count your blessings.
48. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.
49. Wave at the children on a school bus.
50. Remember that 80 per cent of the success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people.
51. Don't expect life to be fair.

Seven Superb Sentences.....

Seven Superb Sentences.....

         *Shakespeare*
Never  play  with the feelings   of  others, because  you may win the game,.. but the risk is that you will surely  lose the person for a  life time.

           *Napoleon*
The world suffers a lot, not because of the violence of bad people, but because  of the silence of good people!

            *Einstein*
I am thankful to all those who said NO to me, as it's because of them I did it myself.

      *Abraham Lincoln*
If friendship is your weakest point, then, you are the strongest person in the world.

       *Shakespeare*
Laughing faces do not mean that  there is absence of sorrow!,... but it means that they  have the ability to deal with it.

      *William  Arthur*
Opportunities are like Sunrises, if you wait far too long you can miss them.

            *Hitler*
When you are in the light, everything follows you,...but when you enter into the dark,...even your own shadow leaves you.

                       ❤☮🎶

Religious or Scientific - An Indian Mystery

"Mom, I am a genetic scientist. I am working in the US on the evolution of man. Theory of evolution, Charles Darwin, have you heard of him? " Vasu asked.

His Mother sat down next to him and smiled, "I know about Darwin, Vasu. "But Have you heard of Dashavatar? The ten avatars of Vishnu?" 

Vasu replied in no.

"Then let me tell you what you and Mr. Darwin don't know.

Listen carefully- 

The first avatar was the Matsya avatar, it means the fish. That is because life began in the water. Is that not right?" Vasu began to listen with a little more attention.

"Then came the Kurma Avatar, which means the tortoise, because life moved from the water to the land. The amphibian. So the Tortoise denoted the evolution from sea to land.

Third was the Varaha, the wild boar, which meant the wild animals with not much intellect, you call them the Dinosaurs, correct? " Vasu nodded wide eyed.

"The fourth avatar was the Narasimha avatar, half man and half animal, the evolution from wild animals to intelligent beings.

Fifth the Waman avatar, the midget or dwarf, who could grow really tall. Do you know why that is? Cause there were two kinds of humans, Homo Erectus and the Homo Sapiens and Homo Sapiens won that battle." Vasu could see that his Mother was in full flow and he was stupefied.

"The Sixth avatar was Parshuram, the man who wielded the axe, the man who was a cave and forest dweller. Angry, and not social.

The seventh avatar was Ram, the first thinking social being, who laid out the laws of society and the basis of all relationships.

The Eighth avatar was Balarama, a true farmer showed  value of agriculture in the life

The Ninth avatar was Krishna, the statesman, the politician, the lover who played the game of society and taught how to live and thrive in the social structure.

And finally, my boy, will come Kalki, the man you are working on. The man who will be genetically supreme."

Vasu looked at his Mother speechless. "This is amazing Mom, how did you.. This makes sense!"

"Yes it does Vasu! We Indians knew some amazing things just didnt know how to pass it on scientifically. So made them into mythological stories.  Mythology makes sense. Its just the way you look at it - Religious or Scientific. Your call

22 of the Very best Quotes of All time

1. “Don’t let schooling interfere with your education.” – Mark Twain
2. “I am a slow walker, but I never walk back.” – Abraham Lincoln
3. “There are essentially only two drugs that Western civilization tolerates: Caffeine from Monday to Friday to energize you enough to make you a productive member of society, and alcohol from Friday to Monday to keep you too stupid to figure out the prison that you are living in.” – Bill Hicks
4. “No one is saying that you’ve broken any laws, Mr. President… We’re just saying it’s a little weird that you didn’t have to.” – John Oliver on PRISM
5. “When Students cheat on exams it’s because our school system values grades more than students value learning.” – Neil Degrasse Tyson
6. “We ask 18-year-olds to make huge decisions about their career and financial future, when a month ago they had to ask to go to the bathroom.” – Adam Kotsko
7. “Human nature is like water. It takes the shape of its container.” – Wallace Stevens
8. “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye hard.” – Winnie the Pooh
9. “In war, the strong make slaves of the weak, and in peace the rich makes slaves of the poor.” – Oscar Wilde
10. “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
11. “Danger seems terrible from a distance; it is not so bad if you have a close look at it.” – Abhishek Vicky
12. “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” – Dr. Seuss
13. “The most important things are the hardest to say because words diminish them.” – Stephen King
14. “You can tell how smart people are by what they laugh at.” – Tina Fey
15. “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” – Dumbledore
16. “I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.” – Bill Gates
17. “Chop your own wood, and it will warm you twice.” – Henry Ford
18. “You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” – Buddha
19. “You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes a day, unless you’re too busy, then you should sit for an hour.” – Zen adage
20. “If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole.” – Raylan Givens
21. “Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” – Lao Tzu
22. “Of all sad words of mouth or pen, the saddest are these: it might have been.” – John Greenleaf Whittier

WOMAN - International Women's Day 2017

WOMAN

● changes her name

● changes her home

● leaves her family

● moves in with you

● builds a home with you

● gets pregnant for you

● pregnancy changes her body

● she gets fat

● almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pain of child birth

● even the kids she delivers bear your name

Till the day she dies... everything she does... cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents, bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you..... sometimes at the cost of her own health, hobbies and beauty.

So who is really doing whom a favour?

Dear men, appreciate the women in your lives always, because it is not easy to be a woman.

*Being a woman is priceless*

Happy women's week!

Pass this to every woman in your contact to make her feel proud of herself.

Rock the world ladies!

A salute to ladies!

WOMAN MEANS :-

W ➖ WONDERFUL MOTHER
O ➖ OUTSTANDING FRIEND
M ➖ MARVELLOUS DAUGHTER
A ➖ ADORABLE SISTER
N ➖ NICEST GIFT TO MEN FROM GOD

Pass to every man  to know the value of women
              and
Pass to every woman  to feel proud!
Bless you!

36 Rules all Men Must Know

These are the 37 Rules all Men Must Know...

You don’t have to agree with these rules but these are all characteristics of a good man.

1. Know what you want. Don’t go around asking for approval.
2. Always love and respect your parents.
3. Never cheat on your girlfriend/wife.
4. On the bus always give up your seat to the elderly, pregnant women, and mothers with their kids.
5. Don’t lend money to your family. Give it.
6. Don’t put others down.
7. Don’t participate in gossip.
8. Exercise.
9. At the gym wear nice clothes. You will interact with a lot of different kinds of professionals there and first impressions are everything.
10. Don’t ever take selfies.
11. In emails and texts don’t use short form.
12. No matter how mad you may be at your family, keep it in the family.
13. Don’t brag.
14. Listen. Girls like to talk about themselves.
15. Never use the term: “Shit happens.” Put in more efforts into comforting that person.
16. If talking to someone you don’t want to, make a polite excuse and leave.
17. Never talk religion with anyone. Keep it to yourself.
18. Don’t follow others.
19. Don’t waste your life away being on your phone and computer all the time.
20. When making plans, call. Don’t text.
21. Know how to fix things around the house.
22. Don’t be intimidated by anyone.
23. Know how to fight.
24. Have hobbies.
25. Don’t be afraid to go and watch a movie alone.
26. Learn to be patient and relaxed.
27. Never stop learning new skills.
28. Read books and keep the mind fresh.
29. Read the newspaper.
30. You don’t need a reason to buy your mom flowers.
31. Never split the check. Always pay it.
32. Play chess at least twice a week. Keeps the mind super fresh.
33. Own a pair of expensive sunglasses, gloves and nice scarf.
34. Own at least two nice watches.
35. Use a money clip. Not a wallet.
36. Don’t buy things you can’t afford.

10 Most Commonly Misunderstood words

10 Most commonly misunderstood words

82 Key Points to lead a satisfactory and successful life

1. Respect people. Not because you want something from them– because they’re people.
2. Take care of your body. It’s a temple– but don’t make it your idol.
3. Social media is NOT for airing out your dirty laundry.
4. Learn to fact-check, especially what you see online.
5. Learn to listen well, especially when you’re angry.
6. Make friends with people who are different than you.
7. Travel as much and as often as you can–especially internationally. Experience new cultures.travel often
8. Never invalidate someone else’s feelings.
9. Don’t be ashamed of your emotions.
10. Relationships are at the core of being human. Invest in them.
11. Read often. Read fiction and nonfiction. Read authors that you disagree with.
12. Learn to form an argument– not for the sake of arguing, but to know why you believe what you believe.
13. Always argue fairly.
14. Seek to understand first. Everyone has reasons behind their beliefs.
15. Stay away from angry arguments on social media. No one wins.
16. You don’t necessarily have to go to college. Find a passion and decide what fits it best.
17. Find a job that means something to you– not just a job that pays well.
18. Be an artist in whatever profession you choose.
19. Look ahead and set goals. Write them down.
20. Challenge yourself. Leave your comfort zone. Do better next time.
21. Perfection is impossible. Excellence is not.
22. Some subjects in school won’t be relevant to your life. However, your grades and the ability to work hard at something you may not care about, will be.
23. Family comes first.
24. Don’t you dare objectify women.
25. Don’t stereotype people.
26. When you find love, say it. Show it. Hold on to it.
27. Love for intellect, personality, and heart– not for appearance or other superficial traits.
28. Find a life partner who compensates for your flaws and accepts you in spite of them.
29. Don’t rush into marriage.
30. Always tithe. God blesses those who give generously and happily.
31. Accumulate experiences and savings, not things.
32. Commit important things to memory. Don’t rely on Google or your phone for everything.
33. It’s okay to be angry. Just find a healthy outlet for it.
34. Use your voice to speak for those who don’t have one.
35. Use your influence to help, never to control.
36. Competition is good, but not at all costs.
37. Whether you’re rich or poor, be classy.
38. Learn how to talk on the phone. It’s an important skill.
39. Learn the art of conversation. Be friendly. Ask questions.
40. Have a good, solid handshake.
41. Anonymous good deeds are the most rewarding.
42. Think about how your decisions will affect others.
43. Pray first. Pray often.
44. Think your own thoughts. Be original. Be honest.
45. When (not if) people hurt you, don’t let it harden your heart.
46. Think about how younger people view you, and try to set a good example.
47. Never settle, but don’t be so picky that you miss a great opportunity.
48. Words are important. Actions are even more important.
49. Pay attention to the people around you.
50. Try new foods.
51. Engage with art: movies, music, paintings, theatre, poetry. Think about it. Always look for the message.
52. Make decisions with the future in mind, but don’t forget to enjoy the present too.
53. Everything in moderation.
54. Remember the people who help you.
55. Give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove you wrong.
56. Don’t hold grudges. You’re the one who suffers the most when you do.
57. Ask for help when you need it.
58. Find friends that you don’t have to impress.
59. Don’t do things you’ll want to lie about later.
60. Put your dang phone DOWN.
61. Take pictures, but don’t live life from behind a screen.
62. Follow the rules, but it’s okay to ask why they’re there.
63. Be a good leader, and a good follower.
64. Trust your gut. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
65. Admit your mistakes.
66. A lie of omission is still a lie.
67. Repetition is the mother of all learning. (Brought to you by your grandfather, boys.)
68. Maturity is the ability to do something you hate, well. (Also courtesy of your grandfather)
69. You don’t have to agree with someone to love them.
70. Respect your elders.
71. Respect minorities. Listen to their stories.
72. Spend time in nature. Let it inspire you.spend-time-in-nature-let-it-inspire-you
73. Never stop asking questions. Never stop wondering.
74. Go to church, even when you don’t feel like it. Especially when you don’t feel like it. No other institution can offer the hope that a good church does.
75. Give others the spotlight.
76. Complaining will never solve your problem.
77. Do things you might fail at. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you.
78. Learn from failure and try again.
79. Learn when to keep your mouth shut, even if you’re right.
80. Saying “I told you so” never helped anyone. Ever.
81. Don’t sulk when you lose. Don’t gloat when you win.
82. Have a family, however that looks to you. It’s scary and sometimes messy. But it’s also the greatest blessing anyone can have and the greatest investment anyone can make.

8 Weird But Effective Strategies for Saving your Time

Got a minute? No, you say?

You need not be a superhero to effectively manage your time at the office. You just need some simple solutions that will allow you to maximize your efficiency. Here are eight weird but effective strategies for managing your time even when you work in a busy office with lots of people who are magnetized to you like moths to light.

1. Stand up.
If someone comes into my office while I’m feverishly trying to get work done, I stand up. I will absolutely engage in conversation, but it’s going to be a short one. When you go from sitting to standing, it sends a message that you are on a schedule. It is my experience that when the other party receives the message, they keep their questions, comments or idea sharing short.

2. Don’t have chairs.
I will admit, I don’t practice this, but I have a business associate who does and he swears by it. He has no guest chairs in his office. He says that the problem with chairs is that people come and sit in them and they chat. No chairs, no chat.

3. Share lunch.
Sometimes your co-workers, employees and staff just want to get to know you. That’s why if I am in the office working during lunch, I’ll have lunch with them so that get the opportunity to chat about fun stuff without losing valuable work time.

4. Set parameters.
If I am busy working in the office and someone asks me if I’ve got a minute, I’ll tell them yes and I’ll tell them how many minutes I’ve got.

“Sure, I’ve got about five minutes but then I need to get back to this project.”

At about the five-minute mark, I will start looking at the clock to signal that their time is nearly over. If I can’t answer the question or offer the needed assistance in that time, I’ll ask if we can schedule a longer meeting later in the day.

5. Know when to take calls.
This seems like a no-brainer. I never take an unsolicited call from a number that I don’t recognize, ever. People can leave messages and I will choose to call back if I am interested. If I am unsure as to whether I’m interested in taking the call, I will likely have an assistant call the person back to get more information with regards to the nature of the call.

It’s important to note here that an unwanted call can also come in handy at times. If you have someone taking up too much time and you are lucky enough to get an unexpected call during that time, take the call while saying to your guest, “I’ll reach out to you later, I need to take this call.”

6. Control dings, beeps and bops.
When I am working in the office, I set a limit on checking my email to every half hour. Important too, I make sure the volume is off on my computer and my phone. The dings, beeps and bops from email and social media are maddening. If my Facebook or Twitter beeps, I have to check it — I must keep the sound off so I can get work done in between emails.

7. Keep a power hour.
There are times when I simply cannot be disturbed. In those instances, I’ll do what every good hotel allows you to do when you want quiet time and hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign on the door. I have found it even more effective to make sure that I explain why on the sign, otherwise you will still get people who cross the line.

For example, my sign might read, “Do Not Disturb — Webinar in Process.” The sign coupled with the reason for it has been most effective.

8. Scrap the glass door.
There was a time long, long ago, when I had a glass door to my office. Big mistake! A glass door is like working in a fish tank and even when the door is shut, people wave you down and make bizarre hand gestures while trying to determine if you can talk. Get rid of the glass door in favor of one that offers full privacy for those times when you need to be super efficient.

STACEY ALCORN

52 Ways to Tell Someone You Love and Appreciate Them

1. You are special to me.

2. I feel amazing when I spend time with you.

3. You give me goosebumps.

4. I feel safe sharing my secrets with you.

5. I accept you as you are.

6. I understand how you feel.

7. Is there anything I can do to help?

8. I always have fun when I am with you.

9. Please tell me how it is for you so I can understand.

10. Can I hold your hand?

11. Can I give you a hug?

12. You inspire me.

13. I really appreciate it when you…

14. You are one of the most amazing gifts I have ever received.

15. I value everything you’ve taught me.

16. The insights you have shared mean the world to me.

17. Your thoughtfulness is a delight to receive.

18. I will never forget how you…

19. I feel so relaxed and happy when you…

20. Seeing you when … happened made it all okay.

21. I can feel it when your heart sings because it makes my heart sing too.

22. I could sit next to you and not say anything and be at peace.

23. The way you handled … showed me that you are truly…

24. Your comments about … helped me enormously.

25. I’m thankful to have you in my life.

26. I could go anywhere with you.

27. I believe your intentions for me are always good, even when I cannot understand what you do.

28. I trust you.

29. I can go outside of my comfort zone with you.

30. Knowing you gives me courage.

31. The world is less scary when I am with you.

32. I appreciate that your suggestions help me make difficult choices.

33. I lose all concept of time when I am with you.

34. If something serious happened to me, you’re the first person I would call.

35. You are so generous in spirit.

36. Surprise me more often because I like your surprises.

37. I love how you … whenever I need to …

38. I hear your voice even when we are not in the same place.

39. I feel connected to you even when I cannot see you.

40. Your wisdom has saved me.

41. I feel refreshed and renewed around you.

42. I enjoy your sense of humor.

43. Whenever I see a photo of us together, I smile.

44. I appreciate that you think about my feelings before you do and say things.

45. Your smile makes me smile.

46. I love that you know me so well.

47. When I think about you, I often remember when you…

48. I want to keep you in my past, present, and future.

49. I can be me when I am with you—I hope you feel the same way.

50. Circumstance brought us together; choice keeps us together.

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Sue Ellson